More often than not, maintaining good relationships in life comes naturally. Because you typically derive pleasure and joy from your interactions with others, you will tend to naturally nourish those relationships. However, things can get in the way of that natural process and you may benefit from some outside wisdom. That’s what we’re going to explore today.
What gets in the way of good relationships? Sometimes it’s competing values, desires, or goals that get in the way. Sometimes it is subconscious blocks or beliefs you’re battling. Sometimes you just need some additional wisdom and skills.
Your life is measured with time, and your character is defined by what you do with your time. You will necessarily need to apportion your time on things that matter to you. And this principle applies to the area of life we call relationships.
If you want good relationships, you’ll need to follow unbreakable principles of good relationships. And the chief among principles of good relationships is to invest in your relationships. The chief currency required to invest in relationships is time. It’s also sincere interest in someone’s wellbeing; it’s effort to serve and support them; it’s concern and caring. When you value others, they are more likely to value you. Viola! A relationship. Spending time building a relationship is like putting deposits into some imaginary relationship bank account that you have with everyone you know. Good people remember your deposits and repay in turn. A norm of looking after each other is then established. That’s all a relationship is.
It all starts with time.
So, intentionally carve out time in your week to spend with the person you are seeking to build a relationship with. It can be as simple as just being in the same room or having a conversation with him or her. What you do with that time will be different in each situation and with each person. What you do will depend on what he or she needs. Spending time figuring out what he or she needs is also an important time expense.
So, remember to save time for each other if you want a good relationship with each other.
Good luck, my friend. I hope this message has been helpful. I’d love to hear if it has.
This is Ben Balden from, “live a happier, fuller life,” reminding you that your life CAN be better. And more likely than not, intentional personal development is key.
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